Last week, we dealt with unrequited love text messages left unanswered due to kidnapping and fainting. This week, we're going to deal with the other kind of unrequited love---in which you are the unrequiter (not the requiter?). Also, wanting to cheat on your girlfriend while abroad. To ask us a question for our next column, click here!
what2do asks:
“I'm seeing a boy who lives two hours away. He's really nice and sweet---but he's overly attached. I've told him I don't want a relationship and he said he's ok with that given the distance... but he also is very clingy and doesn't give me much space. I'm afraid I'm going to hurt him by stringing him along when I really am just looking for something casual. What should I do?”
Everyone knows boys are “visual” creatures. You should stop trying to tell him what you want and start trying to show him. The next time you see this guy, you need to communicate to him, using visual imagery, that you need space. Here are three artistic representations of division of space that we think will help get the point across.
1. Ask him to stand on one side of the room, and stand on the other. Then, with duct tape, mark a division on the floor between you. Decline to comment when he asks you what you’re doing. He really needs to internalize this without your help. You can also divide the room using a box, which you can crawl inside. Do not let him in because it is your space and not his.
